Wednesday, January 28, 2015

a little surgery for our little one


The past couple of days have been quite a whirlwind.  I mentioned previously that, for several weeks, we have been concerned about Iver's frequency and volume of vomiting. I know that all babies have reflux to some degree and do spit up (sometimes large-seeming volumes) after feeds, but I was finding myself and Iver covered in non-bilious stomach contents multiple times per day, requiring exhausting amounts of outfit changes, burp cloth-toting (we got to holding two at all times when holding Iver after feeds), and laundry. He otherwise seemed like a healthy, well-hydrated little boy who was still producing tears, wet diapers, and stools (and who did not have an appreciable palpable olive-shaped mass in the abdomen [yes, we both had palpated for this!]), and we were really trying not to be those over-anxious doctor-parents.  However, the episodes had seemed to get progressively worse over the past few weeks and when the voluminous projectile vomit woke us up from sleep Saturday, a full three hours after Iver had eaten, and continued for several hours, leaving me sobbing at not knowing how to help my child, we knew we needed to get things checked out.

On Monday at the office, his weight was only 9 pounds (repeated at my request), which was only 12 ounces more than his weight about 19 days previously at his two-week check (most newborns gain about 1 oz per day), despite him being an extremely vigorous feeder and despite an ample breastmilk supply.  We got some Zantac (antacid) and hoped it was just a bad case of GERD, but we took him to the hospital to have the abdominal ultrasound first thing in the morning on Tuesday, which confirmed that our little baby had pyloric stenosis.

Pyloric stenosis, as many of our medical friends know, is a very rare (1-2/1000) condition where the outlet of the stomach into the duodenum or first part of the small intestine is hypertrophied and which prevents stomach contents from passing through comfortably. Its etiology is multifactorial but it can run in families and presents at ages 2-6 weeks.  It tends to affect firstborn males and is more common in Caucasian babies than in Asians or mixed-race couples which we obviously are.  The symptoms fit our little boy perfectly, but the risk factors didn't really... which goes to show that, as we know in medicine, zebras (those less-common-than-horses diagnoses) can exist.

I was very emotional when learning that our little boy was "failing to thrive" (while surprising, it was also not that surprising given how much fluid we saw come out of him) and felt that my heart was breaking when the ultrasound tech (and our friend Natalia, the radiologist, who incredibly generously came in on her day off to review the pictures) told me flat-out and real-time that the pictures confirmed the diagnosis, as I knew that our little five-week-old baby would need urgent surgery.  It's incredible how much one can love and want to protect your child, when once I doubted my "maternal" instincts.

However, I was also at peace knowing that this condition is easily fixed with surgery, and really has no long-lasting consequences or other medical associations. We are so thankful that everything happened so quickly, it definitely being a perk that K and I are both physicians in this area. We were initially under the impression that we may have to travel to the Bay Area or Sacramento for the surgery given our rural area without true pediatric specialists and anesthesia providers who feel comfortable putting young children to sleep; however, after a few phone calls, we learned that the semi-retired surgeon in Eureka who was on call was willing to and did recruit two anesthesiologists to be able to do Iver's surgery the same day.

We checked into St. Joseph's Hospital's NICU early afternoon, with surgery planned for early evening. The IV start was a bit rough on our little one, who was already fussy and starving, being kept NPO (nothing by mouth) in preparation for abdominal surgery, which (not being able to comfort/feed your hungry baby!) I think was the hardest part about this whole ordeal.  However, Iver did get some solace from being cuddled, and also from his wubbanub (pacifier-attached-to-a-stuffed-monkey) on which he sucked with all his might (hoping milk would eventually emerge) and which he clutched (see all the pictures) until it was time to go to the pre-op area.

Waiting to meet with the doctors...




not scrapping the bib yet


with his little IV in

In Daddy's arms in pre-op




The surgery lasted about an hour including anesthesia induction and extubation, which took a bit longer than expected per (one of) the anesthesiologists(s) as they were cautious given Iver's young age.  Nevertheless, everything went well and our little guy was alert (and still hungry) soon after.  His little drowsy, hoarse cry was the most adorable yet heartbreaking thing ever.  Back into his mouth went the pacifer, the closest thing we had to the prohibited breast or milk!




While the surgery (pyloromyotomy) can be done laparoscopically, it's apparently generally just as easy to do it with an open approach, and Iver has about a 4 cm sutured horizontal scar on his abdomen which should heal really well.  He didn't even seem to be in much pain post-op, getting just one dose of rectal tylenol before leaving the O.R.!






He was able to start gentle (1 oz) of pedialyte orally about 6 hours post-op, and he tolerated expressed breast milk this morning and nursed mid-morning. Between the monitors beeping, the nurses taking vitals, my pumping, his whimpering, and my wanting to hold him constantly, he and I didn't get much sleep last night in the NICU, but sleep is not at all important in the context of everything that our little one went through.  Amazingly, we were able to be discharged around midday today and headed home.

Ready to head home (sans bib!)

 

While babies with pyloric stenosis can still have some spit-up and vomiting episodes post-surgery, they should decrease in the next week. We are are so excited to be able to feed on demand without fearing all of it may come right back up without holding him upright for hours, and without fearing he will drown in his own vomit. Less laundry will be a perk, too, but we are just happy for a healthy baby boy who, with hope, will now gain weight well, smile more, enjoy tummy time, and otherwise thrive! We are so thankful for the care of our doctors and nurses,  and for all the prayers and messages of support we have gotten from friends and family! We are very blessed.


And, in case you haven't seen enough pictures of our handsome boy, here are a few more:


























Man, how I love this little guy.

Sunday, January 25, 2015

Grandparents' Love


My parents came into town from McLean last week to meet their first grandchild!  Mom and dad have been been great baby-holders, giving Iver lots of snuggles (and me time to do laundry and even exercise! :)), as well as helping with meal preparation, dishes, laundry-folding, and the like.   We've been blessed with gorgeous weather (I think it was in the 70s today!) and have been taking walks-- at the Arcata marsh, Arcata Redwood Forest, and the neighborhood, but also have been spending lots of time hunkering down at home, reading and watching Aussie Open tennis.










We still have a very good daytime (afternoon mainly) snoozer, who loves to sleep on our chests.



At 4 weeks old as well as earlier this week (alas, no photos), Iver (asleep in the middle!) got to meet and hang out with Levi (at left, born 30 minutes after Iver was!) and Bentley (at right, born three days later), his December birth buddies! 


with moms (Molly with Levi, Nina with Bentley)


He is sleeping 3-3.5-hour stretches in the snuggle nest, but still having alarming, projectile vomiting which caused us much stress last night and which we hope to get evaluated this week.  Let's hope it's just bad reflux or an overfilled tummy and not pyloric stenosis, which requires surgery...


He snuggles with Pep sometimes...

 ...and he turned 5 weeks old today! (We're waiting for the social smile to arrive!)









Tuesday, January 13, 2015

3 weeks and counting

Iver is over three weeks old now, and I am definitely feeling more comfortable and competent with the day-to-day tasks of taking care of a newborn.  I've gotten pretty efficient with changing the (cloth) diapers and outfits (of which which we go through many-- with a huge spitter-upper on our hands, I now understand why newborns need so many clothes [and wonder why newborn clothes aren't all just made to be yellow?!]) without getting peed on, getting out of the door on time, preparing meals one-handed and even cooking some dinners (I think K's mom feared we'd starve to death once she left!), and getting Iver into a carrier to be able to take Pepper for her daily walks.

Despite the sometimes-projectile, large-volume spit-up, he seems to be thriving-- he weighed 8# 4.5 oz, over a pound over his birth weight, at his 2 week checkup last week!
 
He makes funny faces after he eats. It's hard to catch his newborn smile on camera, but he does do that quite often.

The "O"



I've been able to pump and save quite a bit of milk already (already putting my chest-freezer-Christmas-present to good use). We tried out breast milk in a bottle one time this weekend just to see if he'd take one, and it was a success, which really puts my mind at ease for the whole going-back-to-work thing....


He's starting to sleep longer stretches now-- sometimes napping for as long as 3 hours (and he gave us a 3.5 hour stretch last night!)

almost asleep in the glider

milk drunk

morning calisthenics


2 weeks old, sleeping through church

We always have a bib on him as the spit-up is quite unpredictable, untimely, and dangerous!



We are going to try to do weekly photos for a while.... Inara gave us this adorable teddy cushion, and Wendi the very awesome "I" block which has all of his birth stats.



He was a bit cranky for his three week photos




a belated 'Happy New Year'!

We had some fun taking some photos of this expressive babe!















Wednesday, January 7, 2015

The Learning Curve

My attention was brought to this well-written article, by Ashlee Gadd on the collaborative coffeeandcrumbs blog, entitled "a letter to my pre-mom self."
Myself being on a steep new-mama learning curve and being an inquisitive researcher and perfectionist by nature, this article really hit home for me; here is the full text.


"Oh, momma. I see you over there in the diaper aisle of Target, stuffing your face with popcorn, icee tucked carefully between your arm and baby bump. You’re staring at eight different kinds of baby wipes trying to make life-impacting decisions for your unborn child: scented vs. unscented, organic vs. non-organic, name brand vs. generic.

Your brow furrows as you glance over your shoulder at the array of other choices staring at you—diapers, diaper pails, diaper pail bags, diaper rash creams. All the products sit neatly lined up on the shelf, mocking you. Mocking all the moms.

“Pick me! Pick me!” they shout, trying to get your full attention in between bites of popcorn.
And what I really want to do is grab you by the shoulders and both yell and whisper sweetly at the same time: it doesn’t matter. None of that stuff matters. It doesn’t matter that you don’t have a clue what you’re doing or buying because I’m going to let you in on a little secret: nobody does.

Nobody knows what they’re doing bringing fresh new babies into the world. We’re all clueless and equally terrified of doing everything wrong. We’re all just here, caught up in this newfound all-consuming love, trying to figure it out one day at a time, one mistake at a time, one too-expensive Target trip at a time.

I see the worry on your face, the anxiety in your heart, the ridiculous things you’re googling. It’s okay, it’s part of the process. I know you’re scared that life will never be the same, and you’re right—it won’t be. It will be both better and harder than the same, a truth you won’t entirely understand until that squirmy seven pound baby is in your arms.

I am only two measly years ahead of you, but rest assured: I have learned more about motherhood in these past two years than I did in the 26 years leading up to that first positive pregnancy test. And while I have so much to tell you, gentle advice and encouragement to offer, I know that you will never fully comprehend any of this until that baby is here. Yet still, I cannot help myself….here is what I want you to know:

You will be different. You will see parts of yourself that are unrecognizable, brought only to the surface by the sheer fact that another human is suddenly dependent on you for everything. You will be anxious, you will worry, you will feel overprotective like you have never felt before. You will simultaneously need space and not need space because all you want to do is be alone and also never leave your baby with anyone else. You will uncover a plethora of mom-related judgements that were hiding in your heart all along, and one by one they will fall by the wayside as you realize just how hard and messy and glorious this calling of motherhood actually is. You will learn to love fiercely and wildly without expectations, and for the first time in your whole life, your heart will default to selflessness—a part of you that always existed but was buried deep down inside—waiting for this moment, this change, this baby, this occasion to rise. 

Your body will be different. Some parts will get bigger while other parts will shrink; it’s weird and miraculous and confusing most of the time. You will hate your body some days and love your body other days. Give yourself grace. When you’re having a hard time offering yourself grace, take a shower and blow dry your hair. Treat yourself to a new pair of jeans when you're ready to wear jeans again. Get the expensive kind (tell your husband I said it was okay). Remind yourself that your body grew and sustained a human, and that those faint stretch marks on your belly are the well-earned marks of a warrior. 

Your marriage will be different. You and your spouse will see each other with a whole new set of eyes: a brand new microscope on each others’ triumphs and failures. One of you will be “too carefree” and one of you will be “too careful”—you will learn to meet in the middle, eventually. You will trust each other like you’ve never trusted anyone before, and you will learn to love each other as parents, which is a different kind of love. Your date nights will be sparse. Your sex life will be slow. Be patient, be patient, be patient. You'll be tempted to keep score of everything: the number of times you get up in the middle of the night, the number of diapers you've changed, who did the dishes last, whose job is harder. Listen to me carefully, momma. Score-keeping has no place in your marriage. Throw that scorecard away. The best thing you can do for yourself and for each other is to say “thank you” and “I love you” every single day. Be grateful, be appreciative, offer each other grace upon grace upon grace. It is easier said than done, but trust me in this: you both need it now more than ever. 

Your house will be different. You will often feel overwhelmed by the mess, the piles of dishes, the sticky surfaces and crumbs. But one day there will be a trail of cheerios on the floor marking where your baby has been and what he has seen, and you'll realize that those cheerios make your house feel more like a home than any fresh flower arrangement ever could, and that epiphany will make you smile. One day your toddler will run down the hallway in his footy pajamas and you will want to capture that sound in a bottle for all of eternity because there is no better sound to wake up to (excluding the coffee maker). Your house will be messier, more chaotic, and less conducive to hosting company, but you will love it a hundred times more because it has never felt more like home.

Your whole life will be different. Every single day you will wake up with the responsibility of loving a child beyond measure. It will affect every decision you make, every thought you have, every fiber of your very existence. You will slowly learn to let go of control and expectations, a process you will practice every day for the rest of your life as a parent. You will start to see the world as a mom—you will see love and God and humanity through new eyes that will change you and mold you and make you more aware of how small you are and how big God is.

A void will be fulfilled that you didn’t even know existed. Can you remember the first time you saw a sunrise? The first time your toes felt sand? The first time you tasted chocolate? Probably not; you were too young to remember. Five minutes before those experiences happened you were just cruising right along, thinking life was great as is. But then, you saw that stunning orange sunrise and you felt that warm sand between your toes and you tasted that delicious piece of chocolate and you just knew. You knew life just became infinitely better in every way because you experienced magic. And motherhood is kind of like that, only a million times better.

So keep on shoppin, momma. You just dropped a piece of popcorn down your shirt but don’t worry, nobody noticed. And remember what I said about the baby wipes: that stuff doesn’t matter."

Sunday, January 4, 2015

Pep and Pipsqueak

Many people have asked us how Pepper is adjusting to our life that now includes a newborn. She is somewhat apprehensive but mostly quite indifferent.

She seems quite concerned when Iver cries (during diaper changes, for example) and follows me into the office/nursery when she hears him. She'll occasionally will sniff at his glider in the living room, but otherwise seems to go about her day without much change in routine. She still gets lots of cuddles, multiple walks a day (although Daddy has taken up more of this responsibility since Mommy is busy feeding and changing the baby), plenty of snacks and play time (especially as Mommy is home full-time, which she's never had before!), and still occupies the prime position in our bed (we are ok with doggie-co-sleeping although really want to avoid having Iver in our bed from which we have strayed these past two weeks!)! There are no signs of jealousy or snapping, which we really didn't expect from our sweet girl anyway.

Pep, observing our nap

Me with my two babies


She still likes to sit on her perch above the couch and hasn't jumped on Iver yet!

Riding shotgun, now that the carseat is in the back middle seat (her former territory)



I'm interested on how things are going to be between these two once Iver is mobile -- crawling and then walking :)