Thursday, June 28, 2018

A Bad Week for Justice




With the exception of some Democratic/progressive candidate wins in the last year, it's been incredibly hard to stay informed of our nation's (and world's) news in the last year and a half ever since the 2016 election without feeling extreme anxiety and despair on a daily basis. This is a long, hard game, in which recent weeks (and this week in particular) have comprised a particularly hard quarter (inning, set, whatever), because of the following reports (among others):

- the "pro-life/pro-family/love thy neighbor" administration creating an inhumane program of separating vulnerable children from their parents seeking asylum on our southern border in tender-age "shelters" (American concentration camps) which will undoubtedly traumatize them for years to come, whether or not they'll ever be reunited with their families
- an Arizona woman's denial of a prescription to pass a dead fetus of a miscarriage because of a   Walgreens pharmacist's "moral" objection to filling "abortifacients"
- crisis pregnancy centers being allowed to withhold information about women's legal choices for (terminating) pregnancy, while the standard does not apply to Planned Parenthood and abortion providers giving informed consent and options
- a bigot baker being told it is acceptable to discriminate against LGBTQ people based on his claim to "(Christian) religious freedom" and free speech, further evidence of the right weaponizing the first amendment when it serves their intolerant platform
- a racist Muslim travel ban being upheld as legitimate, despite our Constitution supposedly being true to religious tolerance
- GOP gerrymandering and minority vote-suppression in a what-would-be-turning-bluer state, Texas, being deemed perfectly acceptable
- screwing unions for the sake of an objecting few individuals
- the only ideologically flexible or independent-minded "conservative" on the Supreme court (Justice Anthony Kennedy, although he also brought us Citizens United and George W. Bush and apparently ran out of gas with his horrible 5-4 deciding votes this week) just announcing his retirement and thus opening up another seat for another young, extremist right-wing justice à la Gorsuch (who sits in a shamelessly stolen seat that was rightfully that of Obama appointee, Merrick Garland, in perhaps the most consequential political theft in the history of our country). We will now have the most conservative court in three-quarters of a century for generations, which does not reflect the politics or will of the populace and gets abolishes the last check and balance we have on our fascist president
 - Roe vs. Wade (and probably all contraception for anyone with a uterus) most likely being next up on the chopping block, as a direct result of conservative court-packing and gerrymandered state legislatures, which dramatically affects the lives of my patients and women nationally (if you haven't, GET. YOUR. IUD. NOW).
The above actions and decisions literally make me sick and completely ashamed of and disgusted at being from this country (can we become British again?).

At least this brought a smile to my face: 

Yes, Notorious RBG. Stay strong. Please don't break a hip. You can have one or both of my kidneys, or any other organ in fact, if you need one.




And to everyone: Please (if you have the means) donate money (my favorite causes are ACLU, NARAL, Planned Parenthood, Swingleft and progressive candidates' campaigns, and recently KIND (kids in need of defense). Contact your representatives [at least we Californians know that most of our reps have our back]. Vote like hell this midterm year, 2018, and beyond. Our civil rights, our lives, this democracy, and justice for the rest of our lifetime and that of our children depend on it.

Tuesday, June 26, 2018

Boys and batteries: energy mismatches in our house






While my idea of a nice afternoon is reading quietly on the couch, and that of Kelvin (although a pretty energetic person) is watching a show or napping, these pictures sum up nap-dropping 3.5-year-old kid #1's energy level (at the Bounce House on Sunday).





 






Here is him rockin' out in the living room


Additionally, previously good sleeper kid #2 (now 4 months) has been waking every 2-3 hours at night (i.e. 10:30 or 11 p.m. 1 a.m, 4 a.m..... we're trying to eliminate the first waking by letting him fuss (hard when he's in a crib in our room!) and trying to use the pacifier instead of nursing/feeding him before midnight to avoid going down the terrible rabbit hole of months-years of sleep deprivation. Wish us luck. We are tired and feel like we've been sleep training since 2014).




 (thank goodness he's cute like this)


Here are the appropriate matching tees I got for K and the boys for Father's Day (although they arrived very late from Lithuania).





battery-drainers #1 and #2





Here's to feeling like our batteries are more charged... soon.

Saturday, June 23, 2018

Humboldt "Best of" Fair


On Saturday, we went to the local "Best of Humboldt" Fair at Redwood Acres in Eureka, which Iver kept referring to as the "Humboldt Best of Fair"!

We enjoyed petting a bunny, and seeing the chickens and turkeys in the hall of animals.




The Reptile Center was a hit
 


Iver apparently thought this tortoise was a statue...


...until it started walking down the blacktop!



Stingray Adventure



His favorite: Carousel-riding!



A close second: curly fries




Iver stayed far away from this "Tall guy" but Niall wasn't fazed

We, especially these best buds, enjoyed the Humboldt sunshine!





"Alexa....!"

Kenn/Lisa gave us an Amazon Echo Dot a couple of years ago for Christmas. I feel like we probably underutilize it, as this week, I got the e-mail below from Amazon reminding me/us of all the things we can do/ask of "Alexa."


We enjoy asking it to play certain songs (like Iver's favorite nursery songs, including Barney songs, Little Bunny Foo Foo, etc.), and it now recognizes Iver's voice, whereas it used to be confused!


Here's a funny video of what we figured out "Alexa" can do on command (and I love how he asks with a "Please")!


 

 

 

Apparently, you can add items to your Amazon cart via this device, so we have to be careful that Iver doesn't inadvertently order a bunch of stuff. Yesterday, after he was playing with my watch but I needed it back, he requested, "Alexa, can you get me a watch?" :)

 

 


THINGS TO TRY

  • "Alexa, remove milk from my shopping list."
    Now you can check off specific items from your lists using your voice or in the Lists section of the Alexa app.
  • "Alexa, visit Jurassic World."
  • "Alexa, sing a country song."
  • "Alexa, tell everyone breakfast is ready."
  • "Alexa, play the Song of the Day from Amazon Music."
    Exclusive to Amazon Music Unlimited, Panic! at the Disco is taking over Song of the Day, sharing new music, and their current favorite songs.
  • "Alexa, what happened today in history?"
  • "Alexa, what books does Audible recommend for recent grads?"
  • "Alexa, open Westworld."
    Move through Westworld as a host to solve The Maze and attain consciousness with the new Westworld: The Maze skill. Learn More.
  • "Alexa, tell me a camping story."
  • "Alexa, play Cricket Sounds."
  • "Alexa, how are you?"
  • "Alexa, who was the first pick in the NBA Draft this year?"
  • "Alexa, drop in on home."
    Connect instantly with other devices, like an intercom. Learn more.
  • "Alexa, who is the lead singer of Coldplay?"
  • "Alexa, how many Jurassic Park movies are there?"
  • "Alexa, what is your mission?"

Monday, June 18, 2018

Home (by Warsan Shire)

 
photo of Honduran girl-  by John Moore/Getty




no one leaves home unless
home is the mouth of a shark
you only run for the border
when you see the whole city running as well

your neighbors running faster than you
breath bloody in their throats
the boy you went to school with
who kissed you dizzy behind the old tin factory
is holding a gun bigger than his body
you only leave home
when home won’t let you stay.

no one leaves home unless home chases you
fire under feet
hot blood in your belly
it’s not something you ever thought of doing
until the blade burnt threats into
your neck
and even then you carried the anthem under
your breath
only tearing up your passport in an airport toilets
sobbing as each mouthful of paper
made it clear that you wouldn’t be going back.

you have to understand,
that no one puts their children in a boat
unless the water is safer than the land
no one burns their palms
under trains
beneath carriages
no one spends days and nights in the stomach of a truck
feeding on newspaper unless the miles travelled
means something more than journey.
no one crawls under fences
no one wants to be beaten
pitied


no one chooses refugee camps
or strip searches where your
body is left aching
or prison,
because prison is safer
than a city of fire
and one prison guard
in the night
is better than a truckload
of men who look like your father
no one could take it
no one could stomach it
no one skin would be tough enough

the
go home blacks
refugees
dirty immigrants
asylum seekers
sucking our country dry
niggers with their hands out
they smell strange
savage
messed up their country and now they want
to mess ours up
how do the words
the dirty looks
roll off your backs
maybe because the blow is softer
than a limb torn off


or the words are more tender
than fourteen men between
your legs
or the insults are easier
to swallow
than rubble
than bone
than your child body
in pieces.
i want to go home,
but home is the mouth of a shark
home is the barrel of the gun
and no one would leave home
unless home chased you to the shore
unless home told you
to quicken your legs
leave your clothes behind
crawl through the desert
wade through the oceans
drown
save
be hungry
beg
forget pride
your survival is more important


no one leaves home until home is a sweaty voice in your ear
saying-
leave,
run away from me now
i don't know what i’ve become
but i know that anywhere
is safer than here


 Barry Blitt's "Yearning to Breathe Free"

Sunday, June 17, 2018

Happy Father's Day


Kelvin is now a dad to two!  He's definitely Iver's #1 person in the whole world, and I'm sure that Niall (when he is less attached to the breast!) will idolize "Papa," too!



From preschool, "What do you love doing with your Dad?"


Dancing giggles


Kelvin is a very committed and involved father who loves his kids to the moon and back!

Here's also wishing a very happy Father's Day across the miles to my own special dad and father-in-law! 

Saturday, June 16, 2018

Oysterfest '18 and a birthday celebration


I think we skipped Oysterfest last year, but we hit the Plaza this Saturday to enjoy some of our favorite (Tomo) oysters and wander for the 28th annual event.


Niall's first Oysterfest!




Iver enjoyed the street music!





Iver was terrified of this "Tall guy"


Iver enjoyed the (Free) bounce house in the kids' zone (Flupsy- Oyster Nursery).

Carefully selecting a balloon animal




In the afternoon, we celebrated Sam's actual birthday and Samara's first birthday at the McCombers'.

Iver and Connor in his tree house

watermelon: the taste of summer


Iver, Claire, and Al

The Ramones' lemon poppyseed cake was a hit!
(he even took his leftovers to go.... now that's my boy!)